*hugs* I'm really sorry to hear this, hun! Death sucks! :/
I think funerals are nice in a way. They're memorials and you get together with the family and remember the deceased person. I'm not familiar with the funeral traditions in other countries, but first there's the church part, after that the burial and after that socializing with food while telling stories. At my uncle's... second funeral we mused about if he had had a second wife.
Funerals are usually held a few weeks after the person's death here, which is probably late compared to other countries. Most people have probably done most of their grieving by then, I tend to mourn constantly for a couple of days, and then I'm suddenly fine.
I hope the family time/gathering won't be too bad. I'm sure your family understands if you want some alone-time.
And what did we do after my grandma's funeral? We went to IKEA in our funeral clothes (I inherited my grandma's black little partydress from the 50's-60's? and it's now part of my funeral outfit, I see it as a tribute) and did some shopping because we're Swedish. And somewhat morbid. Or both.
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on 2009-10-21 05:23 pm (UTC)I think funerals are nice in a way. They're memorials and you get together with the family and remember the deceased person. I'm not familiar with the funeral traditions in other countries, but first there's the church part, after that the burial and after that socializing with food while telling stories. At my uncle's... second funeral we mused about if he had had a second wife.
Funerals are usually held a few weeks after the person's death here, which is probably late compared to other countries. Most people have probably done most of their grieving by then, I tend to mourn constantly for a couple of days, and then I'm suddenly fine.
I hope the family time/gathering won't be too bad. I'm sure your family understands if you want some alone-time.
And what did we do after my grandma's funeral? We went to IKEA in our funeral clothes (I inherited my grandma's black little partydress from the 50's-60's? and it's now part of my funeral outfit, I see it as a tribute) and did some shopping because we're Swedish. And somewhat morbid. Or both.If you need to talk you know where to find me! ♥